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How To Use Dominant Body Language

Posted by Gary On September - 22 - 2009

strong body language

It’s well known that more than 80% of communication is done through non-verbal communication, otherwise known as body language.  It’s important that you learn how to use strong dominant body language to aid you in meeting and attracting high quality women.

Women know in a second whether or not a man is worth their time. Just like you, they’re looking for someone who is mentally stable, confident, and attractive.  The tone of your voice, the way you carry yourself (body language), the clothes you’re wearing all can help you make it past that snap judgment when you’re meeting a new woman for the first time.

Using dominant body language is one of the fastest ways to instantly make yourself more attractive.  Here are three easy to implement dominant body language tips to convey confidence and set yourself aside from the pack of wusses who can’t event manage to hold eye contact.

  1. Learn to hold eye contact longer before looking away with anyone else you’re speaking with.  Do not look away until she does. If you look away first it is a sign of submission.  It’s like saying with your eyes “I’m sorry, I realize I should not have been looking at you in the first place.”  If however, you hold eye contact it’s a deliberate action.  It lets her conscious or unconsciously know that you’re not afraid to purposefully engage her eyes. You’ll find the more you do this with both men and women you’re ability to connect with people in conversation will dramatically increase.
  2. Don’t walk around with your head down looking at the ground.  Unless your looking for something you lost, or hoping to find money rolling around on the ground then I can understand. Eyes forward, head up, shoulders back, chest out.
  3. Avoid making fast, twitchy, nervous gestures.  Not only does it make you look weird and nervous, it will also make those around you on edge and wonder wtf is wrong with you.  Control your nervous ticks, no leg thumping, hand tapping, drumming on the table, nail biting, ear pulling etc when you’re talking to a woman you’re interested in or on a date.  Move slow and with deliberation., but not like your stuck in molasses.  Just be calm and quell the storm inside.

-Gary

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How To Tease Sexually

Posted by Gary On September - 14 - 2009

How To Tease Sexually

Women love to be teased, even if they tell you otherwise or act like they don’t like it. This is they’re way of actually telling you they do in fact like it (as long as their smiling or laughing while saying this of course). Teasing is a quick and easy way to break down her natural defenses and quickly build rapport. To do this you basically make fun of her the same way you would do when you’re a little kid.  You’re not being mean, but just having fun with her.

One of the most effective ways to tease and build attraction is to alternate between hot and cold. Tell a girl you’re out with that you’re glad we’re friends, while you lead her by the hand to the next room or wrap your arms around her. Lay on the teasing, flirting, and touching for a few minutes then don’t touch her again for the next hour or two. If you’ve done this right she will be touching you long before then.

The reason this works is that when you’re doing this you are sending mixed signals. She’s not exactly sure what’s going on but finds you interesting because you’re not all over her like most guys would be if given the opportunity. The more attractive the woman, the more you need to tease her so she sees you as commanding more social value. Then she will have to validate her social value to you and will naturally find you more attractive.

Whenever you’re approaching women or prepared to meet women you have to get yourself into a teasing and playing mode. A good idea is to create 3-4 canned lines will work in most scenarios. This way you’ll always have something at the tip of your tongue so you don’t sit there with your jaw agape after saying “hi” to that hottie in the elevator.

Get some canned lines created, start testing them out and use what works and toss what doesn’t.

Teasing Delivery Tips

Make sure if it’s something that could potentially be taken seriously or perceived as insulting you are smiling, other ways it may not come out they way want it too.  If it’s something really goofy it can be a lot funnier, especially to someone who doesn’t know you from a hole in the wall if you say it with a very serious face.

-Gary

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Christian Dating Advice For Men

Posted by P'Ple On September - 11 - 2009

Christian Dating Balancing our beliefs and desires is an ever acting characteristic in a humans life, we strive do this all the time.

 

As men, we all find ourselves struggling from time to time with our urges and our faith. Here you can gain some perspective of fitting these two together.

 

It is natural to want to stay true to what we believe in. And for most Christian men, it is important that love occur within the boundaries of church.

 

Sex during marriage only is one of those boundaries.

 

Whether we follow it or not, there are validities of free will choices at work here and it is not for us to judge this belief.

 

Ancient legends tell us that when we partake of sex with one another, a part of their soul lingers with ours and we carry that piece of soul around with us for the rest of our lives.

 

Keeping your virginity for your wife is a wise choice since this is true in some respects.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

 

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

 

After all - sex is important! Getting married to someone who's sexually incompatible with you can be a very difficult union to be in.

 

These few outlooks are especially for men who face the challenge of mixing faith and romance.

 

1. Refine your beliefs

 

Keep in mind that things will be easier when you clarify your beliefs, since it is your faith, which guides you through your life.

 

God gave us free will and the ability to think and reason. It is up to us to look at all our options and decide what path to take. You may believe in some of what the Church teaches, but not all. Or, you may embrace all of the Church's teachings.

 

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

 

2. Trust in the plan God has for you.

 

Keep your faith that God has a plan for you and the woman you are meant to be with when the two of you are united.

 

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

 

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

 

Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting to know them - this is not just stuff that happens. We have to MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the path

 

God has set out for us, because our actions are based on what we believe.

 

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

 

Many people have a notion that virginity is something to be prized, but it really isn't. Sex is just an act. It's just like breathing, or walking, or exercising. It is something we do.

 

Gods intention is for man to be fruitful and multiply, this means sex. It is one of the greatest gifts from God; his intention is for us to have sex, this is why sex is pleasurable.

 

Virginity maybe a sacred in some respects, however the way we think about it is confusing. Virginity is meant to be lost, the challenge however, in in finding the right person to whom with to share it.

 

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It's the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

 

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

 

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching - this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires... that is where true intimacy stems from.

 

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

 

When you place too much importance on blending sex and faith, you may find yourself inflating the importance of a woman.

 

You might see her as a delicate flower, or a goddess, or something that needs to be cherished and treated special.

 

Keep in mind that in many ways men and women are alike. We all come from the same place.

 

You should never put a woman on a pedestal simply because you find her sexually attractive.

 

This is not the same as having respect for her.

It is easy to love an ideal. But it is hard to love the reality. The woman who gets awnry when she's hungry, the woman who nags you about taking out the garbage, the woman who wakes up in the morning with bad breath - that is the reality.

 

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

 

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

 

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Dating Tips for Shy Guys Help You Relate to Women

Posted by P'Ple On September - 11 - 2009

shy guySo, I have a friend he is very very shy.I try to find solution on the internet to tell him that don’t be shy. I found “Dating Tips for Shy Guys Help You Relate to Women”, I think it might be useful help my friend, hope you also like it.Please review.

 

Relating to women is about learning to be natural around a woman and get her interested in having sex with you. As a shy guy, you have probably spent a lot of time watching the women you are attracted to be hit on by and even responding positively to jerks. You might be thinking it makes no sense that a woman would be turned on by the lying, cheating, wanna be a player type of guy.

 

The truth is jerks are able to date women because they know how to be selfish. Selfish guys naturally have more marchioness than other guys, because they are selfish they act superior to others. This confidence comes in handy when they go to talk to women since they do not worry about a woman turning them down. Dating tips for shy guys help men recognize what women want and how they can naturally become what a woman is looking for. Consider the following five traits that every shy guy needs to develop:

 

Flex your authority

 

Shy guys are doormats, women step all over them and dump all kinds of dirt on them. Why? Because shy guys let them get away with it. When a woman meets an authoritative man, she knows she cannot get away with using him like this and will not even try. If she actually does, he will quickly put her in her place and establish his status as the leader.

 

Great examples of men who are always in charge are man in uniforms. Guys in military services, police officers and firefighters are guys who are used to given orders and leading other men around them. Women know not to test this type of guy and naturally defer to them and respect their authoritative role in a relationship, effortlessly surrendering their power.

 

Independence

 

Learn dating tips for shy guys to be comfortable at being in your own presence. Guys who are independent do not depend on any one woman for his happiness. You can practice this by being a little arrogant, meaning you recognize you can get any girl you want and you refuse to allow yourself to get too into any one girl. This works to get a woman's attention because women always want to be the one girl who matters most to a guy.

 

Show your independence by not calling a girl every day. Be sure to act like you are not that interested in her, the trick is you do not want to come across as cavalier or seem as if you do not care about her at all. Your goal is not too appear to be more into the relationship than she is. Think of this as her being the one to chase you and you getting to decide if you let her get close enough to think she catch you.

 

Bad Boy Traits

 

Women think bad boys are fun, sexy and a little bit wild. Unlike a nice guy, he is not safe and women are intrigued by reforming the bad boy. In addition, dating a bad boy lets a woman explore a hidden side, the desire to be a little wild and bad herself. You do not have to become a bad boy, but dating tips for shy guys can ease you into learning how to let go of your rigid behaviors and have a little more fun, by doing different things and having new experiences with a woman you like.

 

Never get too involved when talking

 

Dating tips for shy guys allow men to understand what topics they can talk about freely with a woman and which are taboo! Dating a woman in the beginning is a lot like taking a test drive. If you want to buy the hottest car on the street, you do not run it off the road.

 

When carrying on a conversation with a woman steer clear of conversation pitfalls.
You do not want to tell her about being potty trained, how you hate all woman because your last girlfriend was a money hungry serpent or why every girl you has ever dated has dumped you. None of these topics does you any good and always remember too much information overload! If it involves bodily functions, other women or your belief in conspiracy theories it probably is a topic of conversation you need to avoid at all costs.

 

Good body language should never be underestimated

 

No dating tips for shy guys could be complete without helping guys understand exactly how they need to attract a woman in the first place. Guys who are shy spend their entire lives trying to avoid women and not being in the crowd or a part of the team. To combat this bad shy guy behavior put yourself out there where women can see you and interact with you. Go bold and make eye contact, flirt as if nobody is watching and smile like the hottest woman in the room is looking!

About the Author

Buddy Franklin is a dating advice guru. He recommends: Dating Book,
Dating Tips For Guys, Dating Tips for Shy Guys

 

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How To Start A Flirty Text Conversation With Girls

Posted by Gary On September - 7 - 2009

images How To Start A Flirty Text Conversation With Girls

Women love texting and in most cases, do it a hell of a lot more than guys.  It’s another great tool you can use to take your time formulate a flirty text conversation.  Texting should always be fun, to the point, and never serious.  These messages assume that you obviously already have a phone number.

Here are two easy ways to start a flirty text conversation.

In *most* cases she will reply back with some flirtatious banter.  If she doesn’t “get” that the message is humorous and fun, and is rather offended by it, she’s probably not a girl you want to hang out with anyway. This type of flirting is actually a really good filtering tool that you can use to quickly weed through girls who are worth your time and energy as they are intelligent and socially aware enough to understand teasing and playing.

Example #1

  • You: “Hey I saw a show and it reminded me of you.”  - If she’s fun and interested in you than you should get a response similar to this:
  • Her: “Oh Yeah?”
  • You: “Yeah, there was this girl with a massive handbag so big you could easily stuff a midget in it, reminded me of the one you have”

Example #2

  • You: “Hey, I’m willing to take you out again, but only if you promise not to spill your water all over the table this time…can you handle that??”
  • Her: “Ha, ha. I think I can try”
  • You: “I know no one’s perfect, but you’re gonna have to try to eat spill free this time or else you owe me” - This is a fun way to challenge and tease her – women love this stuff
  • Her: “Ha, ha. what would I owe you?” – When she starts asking questions its an indicator of interest.  You’re not obligated to immediately answer, it’s good to leave her hanging for a bit to stir the curiosity pot.
  • You: “Well, you’re going to have to wait to find out ;) 6:30 Wed. sound good?” Boom, you’ve asked her out in a fun way and dialed up the attraction dial.

-Gary

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A Better Loving Relationship

Posted by P'Ple On September - 6 - 2009

 

A Better Loving Relationship - 36 Critical Lessons Mind Map will help light the romantic spark that might currently be missing in your relationship.

 

Our intimate relationships are the most important aspects of many people’s lives. Good, solid, fruitful and fulfilling loving relationships not only provide us with great joy and happiness, they also support our careers, inspire us towards the achievement of our deepest and most cherished goals, and provide a deeper sense of both physical