Marrying a Millionaire

Here is a hilarious video on Bad Dates! Everyone needs to get some of her attitude in dealing with a bad date. The fact is everyone will go on at least one bad date. So always be prepared for a back up plan. Here are my rules for first dates.

1. Always meet in a public place

2. Have a code word with your bestfriend, this word will let her/him know if they need to intervene and get you out of the date.

3. Always have a set time for a friend to call and check to see if code word is needed!

4. Finally just be ready to roll with the punches and have fun regardless.

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

It’s all in the eyes

In her book, How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You, author Leil Lowndes claims that the act of staring into someone’s eyes can cause their nervous system to release a chemical called phenylethylamine (or PEA for short) which our bodies secrete when we fall in love. Studies show that gazing into your date’s eyes for about two minutes is all it takes to produce passionate feelings for you, so take advantage of this little secret to flood his bod with the love drug.

Let them know they have a shot

Studies show that finding out that someone we like, likes us back, actually intensifies our romantic feelings towards them. Yes, we actually become more attracted to people who are attracted to us. The hope (that a relationship may develop) allows our feelings to become stronger so be sure to let your date know that you’re attainable.

Make him work for it

Even in this day and age where it’s perfectly acceptable for women to behave more aggressively, never forget that men still love to chase. Always think of yourself as a prize that needs to be won over, and make your dates work a bit. You should meet at a place that’s convenient for you (he should travel further than you do, if possible) and end the date on your terms, preferably on a high note. Show some interest but let him wonder just how much you’re into him.

So, I picked the three dating strategies that I think are the most important. ” It’s all in the eyes” This is so true, I once fell so in love with a man who’s eyes spoke everything. I had to use my eyes as well. We worked together and It just wouldn’t have been very professional for the two of us to make it noticeable in front of everyone. Every time this man looked at me with those eyes I fell even more in love to the point that even after three years I still dream about him.  This is definitely a powerful trick!!

Next,  Let them know they have a shot. This is another powerful trick. I bet everyone has a story about someone that they never gave a second thought until they found out this person had a crush on them. I know I have definitely been there. So let the guy/girl know how you feel. Make sure you keep it subtle though. No one wants someone who is already whipped! The trick is to let them know they have a chance, now it is their turn to prove that they are deserving of it!

Lastly, Make him work for it.  I do not care how progressive this world is becoming. We are still completely human and there are characters about men and women that will never change. For instance a woman will always have a deep desire for a prince and a man will always want to be one. Guys are made to love adventure and competition. Let him have that fun with you. Do not play his role or you will never get to have yours!!

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

Here is a fun video about what girls want from a boyfriend. I am pretty sure funny, loyal and honest were the most common desires. The real truth is, girls love a guy who can make them laugh. We are creatures that are so emotional and feel every stress to the depth of our soul. So a guy who can make her laugh and not take life so seriously, it is like a great anti anxiety medicine!

 Nothing makes a man more desired than when you pair funny with honest and loyal. It is a rare gem out there that can fulfill this but if you have it guys then you are a prize! Be sure to always be confident as well and you will have any girl you desire!

 PS. Don’t pay too attention to the whole perfect body thing. I know plenty of women who have been hopelessly in love with men who were completely average and even on the chubby side. For women, character and personality goes a lot further!
Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

Our relationships are very much like us. Once they are dead, there is nothing that can bring the old magic back.

Some people move on sooner than others, but everyone feels guilty over it. Perhaps that is why most people refuse to give up on them, keep trying to make it work, even though in their hearts they know there is nothing left.

There is no resurrection for the dead - in life or in relationships. The best thing you can do is to realise this and move on. The first step towards this is to be very sure that you want to end this relationship.

The next step is to get it over with in as painless a way as possible for everyone involved. Though there is no way to end a relationship without a lot of hurt or pain, there are ways to minimise them.

But is there a way to break-up a relationship without any hurt? Actually No. Rejection is always hard to take, but rejection from someone you care for is much harder. The best you can manage is to minimise the hurt.

1. Location:

However strong the temptation, do not break-up over the phone or email. Your soon-to-be ex deserves that much respect. Still not convinced? Think how humiliating it would be if someone did the same with you. It sends out the signal that your time together has never meant anything to you. Choose a private place for your break-up speech. You do not want to add humiliation to hurt, and your partner needs some time to deal with the news. Yes, it can be difficult and wanting to avoid confrontations is natural. But don’t you want a clean break for once and all, so you can get on with your life.

2. Time

Do not break-off around your partner’s birthday or any other special occasions. Time is of great essence, chances are that your partner already has a hint about the cracks in your relationship. You don’t want them to remember their birthdays or other special days as the day when you broke their heart. Preferably, try to do it on a weekday, so that work keeps them a little busy, a weekend will just give them more time to sit and sulk.

3. Reason

This is THE most important aspect. Be honest, brutally honest if need be, because the person who has loved you deserves a true reason to know what went wrong and where. It will help you both get over the relationship more easily and quickly if you’re true to yourself. Im not saying have a proper speech ready, but the reasons you think and why do you think those reasons are important.

4. Duration

Make sure you both have time on your hands for the talk. You don’t want to rush through it. This might probably, be the last time when you both will be discussing your relationship in detail. So its necessary that you talk out all the flaws, and decide the way forward. 

5. Aftermath:

The safest way to get over a relationship is not be in touch for at least the first 3-4 months, even if you guys decide to end it off on a good note and be friends. Oh and ya, try and stay away from rebound relationships. You don’t want to get into something when you are most vulnerable. 

And, the last piece of advice, which everyone will tell you is try and keep yourself busy with work, your hobbies, friends, whatever. Resist the urge to be alone.

Avoid the bar scene. Really, this is not the place to meet the love of your life. Though some claim success, most of those I’ve interviewed say it never really worked for them. If you’re just looking for a hook-up, a bar may be your best bet. But if you want a real relationship, try a different approach.

– Ask friends to introduce you to someone. This is my favorite way of meeting someone. A mutual friend knows both of you, so the due diligence is done and the first date will be much less awkward if there can be a double date that includes the mutual friend. This method of dating is not only safer, but is more fun and less scary than just picking someone up. So ask your friends. Then keep reminding them, and then go to as many parties as you can. Also, never turn down a wedding invitation — love is always present at a wedding.

– These days, you can’t avoid the Internet — and you shouldn’t. There are millions of singles on hundreds of dating sites, and many people have reconnected with old loves through Facebook. So you’ve got lots of company on the Internet, and your chances of meeting someone are pretty high.

It is always hard to want to get back out in the dating scene once you have had yet another failed relationship. Trust me, I have been there. The truth is guys sometimes a break is needed but it is dangerous to get too comfortable in it. Finding love requires risk and we must all be willing to take that leap. These three dating tips will help you get back out in the love game and hopefully find true love.

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

Leave your emotional baggage at home
If you have a huge line in exes, a past addiction to therapy and you still can’t forgive your Dad for missing your sports’ day when you were five, keep it to yourself on your first date. Too much emotional baggage, too soon, is never attractive. If you end up in a relationship – you’ll have plenty of opportunity to air your past sexual history, your hang-ups and all your past regrets and mistakes.

A first date, like a first interview, is the time to emphasise your best points not to draw attention to your weaknesses.

However, if your date asks you a direct question, such as, “Have you ever been married?” (or even “Are you married?”) then of course give the true answer.

Be yourself
Let the other person see the real you. A first date is not the time to try out being the person you’d like to be, or the person you think your date would like you to be. After all, you don’t want them falling in love with a false version of you. You want someone who likes you for all you are, with your good bits, your not so good bits, your little quirky bits and all the things in between that make you, you.

Here are a couple of great first date tips.  These two are so important.  Always leave emotional baggage at home. Let the person see all the goods at first. Remember you never get a chance to redo a first impression! Secondly, always be yourself. It is way better to find out from the beginning if the two of you have real potential. By being yourself you will be able to determine even how much chemistry the two of you will have!

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo